So you’re postponing your wedding to a new date — now what?

This is the current situation we’re helping our couples navigate.

Postponing your wedding is going to make you feel a variety of emotions. And, listen, you have permission to feel SAD and FRUSTRATED about uprooting all your plans.

With the extra time you have leading up to your new wedding date, you may feel a bit lost.

We don’t have all the answers. But here are some things to do (or don’t do) now that you are postponing your wedding:

Let your guests know

There’s no need to send your guests a whole new invitation, unless you want to.

You probably collected your guests email addresses while you were building your guest list.  What you can do is send your guests an email with your new wedding date, and direct them to your wedding website for new information and updates.

If it feels cold to just send a mass email, think about emailing a PDF digital version (or photo) of a Change of Date card. One of our favourite stationery designers, Alissa at Plush Invitations, created this one for our clients that perfectly matches their wedding invitations.

Still not loving the email approach? Send a card that coordinates with your pre-pandemic invitation alerting guests of your date change and website information.

If you don’t have a wedding website, now is a great time to start one. Our clients like Minted, The Knot, or Appy Couple if you want the whole invitation/RSVP/website suite.

Things are changing constantly with Covid-19, and because no one knows what is going to happen, your wedding website is going to be the info source for your guests.

Don’t try to plan a new wedding

Step back from Pinterest.

You have all this free time now to browse and “look for a few things”. This is totally understandable as you likely want to DO something to take back control. Just be careful not to start re-designing and planning a whole new wedding!

A silver lining to your postponement could be that you have extra time to save for the items you really wanted for your wedding (if you have that luxury). While some things in your wedding will get tweaked, don’t fall down the rabbit hole of new ideas.

Adding a few new inspirations here and there won’t hurt. But be aware that if you are changing things up a lot, you could be incurring more costs from your vendors.

New ideas could add more design time from your planner/designer. They could also require more labour and staffing on the day-of. Most vendors are being as flexible as possible, but if there is a scope change then it’s realistic that there could be a charge.

Celebrate your original date

Don’t let your OG wedding date be a sad day of What Could Have Been! 

Buy a bouquet of flowers from your florist to celebrate your OG date (doing double-duty to support your vendors and bring some life into your home). Get a special bottle of wine or champagne. Order a nice meal from your favourite local restaurant. Get some cupcakes from your cake maker.

You see where we are going with this. You’re going to have a mixed bag of emotions when your original date rolls around, but remember that a specific date doesn’t define you or your relationship.

We in the wedding industry are sad too

This career field is already not for the faint of heart. So to see big changes like this is worrisome for everyone.

We acknowledge that circumstances vary, and some things are tougher for some people. But we want to stay positive and work on ways to help.

Let us know what you’re doing if you have postponed your wedding. Or drop us a line if you’re overwhelmed with your wedding planning.

xo, Evelyn